Love to Lust…from We to Me

Whether you want to admit it or not, social media has made it easier to cheat on your partner.  Back in the day you needed to actually see someone and get their number, to engage with them.  Now you can easily slide into anyone’s DM on any given network at anytime.  Then comes the meet up, your place, my place, or the telley (hotel), but what usually takes place is the non physical approach, the swappage of intimate pics (sexting).

You’ve seen this person time to time online, and have your own image of them built in your head based off looks, but we have to dig deeper than the flesh to realize true beauty.  I’m not referring to females only, but males also.  Now-a-days I think men are quicker to take/send pics than females.  For some basic thinking male species they think the lure of the dick print or actual image of a well endowed one is all they need to GTD (get the draws) #RIP Tommy, and in some cases it does work, because what men fail to realize is that women can smash and dash too and not be hypnotized by their pendulum.



So now you have cheated and your partner finds out, what’s next, do you forgive or not???


Well reasons and rationale for forgiveness were pretty much the same for both male and female surveyors.  Contrary to popular belief 80% of the males would forgive their partner, and 85% of females would forgive their mate.  Key factors to that decision were the type of cheating involved, physical, emotional or sexting.   It was hard for the males to come to term with the fact that females can hit and quit too.  Males mostly thought that the reason a female cheated were for emotional purposes solely.  Times have changed, and so have the behaviors of both sexes.  I had to let the men know that women don’t only cheat emotionally, but we can have a strictly physical relationship and not get emotionally attached.


Pride and ego the biggest destroyers of relationships.  Are you humble enough to admit your wrongs and verbalize how you truly feel to save your relationship?  Can things ever be the same?… both male and female agreed that there  would always be a lingering thought of their partners infidelity, trust would be hard to earn again.  With that said do you let go or move on.  Whatever your choice is, make sure it is one that you’re happy and satisfied with.  The best solution to cheating is to never have to do it to begin with.  If you feel the need to stray, have an open relationship or just leave.








My Breast Curve Is My Best Curve Are You Aware???

If you haven’t noticed from all the pink items in promotion from some of your favorite brands, It’s Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  Yes there is some shade in that statement, ok there’s a lot of shade.  It’s all about the Benjamin’s for most business’, one can’t help but notice that the focus has shifted from the patients that are at risk, affected or survivors of this terrible disease to one of a monetary/marketing gain.  Yes they prey and take advantage of people’s genuine concern but hey what’s new?.  The real harm is in the misinformation.  Once it hits October everyone is “aware”, but little attention is drawn to the actual epidemic, the emotional impact this disease has on those affected, and ways we as a society can directly start a change.

The only two places women have no issue with fat are their ass and their breasts.  Women love our curves.  Curves help women to feel empowered and better about themselves that’s why millions are spent on breast lifts, breast augmentation, Brazilian butt lifts and implants.  As an older woman it is hard to go thru and deal with this body altering process, now imagine a young lady in her 20’s or 30’s who is diagnosed.  With the pressure that society has put on women in general to be “body perfect” social media has intensified more.

We see memes circulating mocking women who are less endowed on top referring them to and below.  We do see memes of males, but men do not walk around with their penis’ out, or their silhouette  constantly on display to the public unless they wear sweats 24/7, it is easy for a man to hide what he is or isn’t “packing”.  Some are unaffected by this and can laugh it off, but others aren’t mentally as strong.  Deny it if you want, but society has become very shallow and superficial in general and the psychological effects can be great causing one to spiral into a depression.  Not only are you battling a potentially terminal illness, but you also have your regular day-to-day responsibilities and that which comes with life to deal with.

Over my career the increase in young women that have been diagnosed and died from this disease that I have come in contact with has dramatically increased, again I’m talking from my own personal experiences.  Cosmetics is a major part of any young ladies regime, yet many of the products that are produced by these monopoly corporations contain toxic chemicals that have been proven to put us women at risk.  So how do we protest and protect ourselves you ask, simple stop using items that contain these same chemicals bringing us women harm.  Once they start to see the shift in their pockets, that will gain their attention and cause change.

It’s Breast Cancer Awareness Month, so be aware and start paying attention to what you put in and on your body.